If you had any friends who were honest they would tell you why you were still single. Sex and the City was a TV show not a lifestyle for an aging woman who wants a mate. "He had flowers that matched his shirt, i didnt like him then i went to Neiman Marcus to look at purses". That sounds so shallow I don't know where to start.
Most men over 40 can see your act a mile a way and will run the other direction. I think the question to ask is what YOU bring to a relationship. What man of quality wants as woman with a string of failed relationships with drunks and drug addicts? That says more about you and your values and self worth than the druggies you were with.
A lot of the comments above are pretty cruel but also pretty accurate. I would wish you good luck in your endeavour but sadly I don't think you would know what to do with it if you had it.
" For yes, many of the men I have dated have been mentally ill, alcoholics, and drug addicts. Some of them were nuts and addicts as well. What can I say? I really know how to pick them! Oh do I ever.I say it's quite the accomplishment in that I have managed to date the vast number of insane and chemically addicted people that I have. The question is was it the men that I dated? Was it their fault that I invested precious time on trying to help them through their addictions, depressions and so on? Was it their fault that I went to the great lengths of becoming a certified drug addictions counselor in my quest to have a "clean" partner. May I add that I accomplished this with a 4.0 average and 15 years later this man is still "clean". Was it their fault that I like to fix things and made a conscious decision to make these men a project? I wonder."
I've been around the block a time or two and I can guarantee you she was partying and taking drugs with these losers as well. So what we got here is a dried up old skank with limited job skills, a cootch that has seen miles of dick from drugged up losers and who is also likely a former pretty heavy drug user. What quality man who is financially secure wouldn't want that?
"This is pretty much akin to the fat bald middle aged guy that thinks the cute 20 year old barrista a Starbucks likes him because she says "Have a nice day!" everytime he orders his morning caramel latte.
Fact is, your wonderful guy is probably too nice a guy to either dump his girlfriend cold or, like the barrista, to tell you that you don't stand a chance in hell.
A veritable Rake's Progress for the postmodern feminist era, if you will. So oft have tales of squandered opportunities lit the rosy fires of schadenfreude deep within the cockles of our hearts, from Icharus to Tony Montana. It's always a secret and shameful pleasure (akin, perhaps, to the pleasure of defecation) to see vast riches squandered, whether they be the treasures of the counting house or the effortless ability of a smoking hot young slut to stiffen cocks in her wake during a simple stroll across the street. Although the genre as a whole never grows old, I will admit there is a particularly delicious frisson to the contemporary female version. Carry on, gontlemen. I shall observe this tale's progress with interest. Now excuse me while I retire to the orangerie for a mid-morning opium reverie.
Posted 2/23/2012 1:36 pm
"You are a shallow and increasingly bitter narcissistic sociopath with a martyr complex. Take a look in a mirror and go and get some professional help from a counselor or therapist. You are unable to have a positive relationship at this point in your life, and this is due to the lens that you look at yourself and others with.
My other piece of advice for you is to stop watching television. You've obviously been programmed into thinking that there is some mythical "Mr. Right" out there for you, and that you know exactly what he looks like and how he behaves and relates to the world, and most importantly, you. This is delusional thinking. Once you let the delusional crap go, amazing things can happen. Right now, only negative things can happen, as you have programmed your brain to ensure that they do.
Open your eyes. Every day they remain closed is a day you will never see again."
I'm pretty sure this is not what she expected when she started this blog.
She doesn't want good advice. She wants confirmation from likeminded bitter witches.
However, unlike real life where she can dismiss and not talk to people who don't share her point of view and surround herself with a coven singing the same chorus, on the internet the rest of world gets to have its say
I just threw a "you go girl" on page three of her comments. I think the real sport is trolling for comments from the like minded readers and her responses. She's clearly reading the comments. Quick, to the bat cave so I can set the bait.
The martyr complex part really resonated with me. That was my ex-wife 169%. That's the kind of thing that sucks the life out of everyone around such a person. I've been divorced for 18 months and it still weighs on me. Maybe it's because I was married for 25 years. Frightening thought.
Posted 2/23/2012 2:00 pm
I've sent the link to your blog to all my girl friends. Finally a 40 something girl who tells it like it is! Keep up the good work and ignore the haters. I'll check back every day for updates.
I was on a POF coffee date the other day and I thought of this blog. My date, lets call him Trevor,wouldn't shut up about his job at some big company. I couldnt figure out what he did but he talked about something called a server room. He also mentioned he had a mild form of autism. Its called asp.. something or other. Why do people share so much over a cup of coffee whan you first meet them? Anyway between his questionable hygene and bad teeth I couldn't get out of there soon enough. I too took in a little retail therapy afterwards to shake off the feeling that I'll never find The ONE. I also would rather be single...for now. Keep up the great work."