Posted 2/24/2012 6:56 am
It is a thread like this, started by a dot who came across some random female blog by chance, which justifies the existence of this red board, 12 + years removed from it's progenitor.
Posted 2/24/2012 7:10 am
"You portray yourself as a woman of great value in a sea of loser men. This is not, by any means, a unique theme. All you have to do is watch any one of these "you go girl" shows about single women and you'll be regaled by stories of countless goofballs in their humorous attempts to impress the protagonist despite the oh so obvious fact that they're so "unworthy" of her attentions.
Their vulnerability and feelings of these men is not considered because they aren't real people in your mind. They're no more people with feelings than some random uniformed characters that end up getting killed in those zany James Bond films. They're just props. They're cartoon characters put on this earth for your amusement so you can capture that wonderful feeling of existential wonder that comes from knowing you're the only person in the universe.
I suppose that your expectation is that Mr. Wonderful is going to step in the coffee shop for one of your speed dates. And Like in those movies we all love and cherish, you'll both fall ion love at first sight. Nobody here can tell you that you don't have the right to pursue that dream not that you shouldn't hold out for it. That's your choice and nobody here knows what it means to be you. Honestly, I hope it does happen for you. Maybe it will.
But in the meantime, I hope you take a step back and have some consideration for those poor men who tried to put their best foot forward for you. Warped self images go both ways, and I'm sure they meant no disrespect to you for daring to think they were worthy. They probably thought they had something to offer to someone else. Nobody should object to you deciding you don't want to pursue a relationship with them. But I don't blame the people here for reacting the way they do because of the way you chose to reject them. It's not sufficient that they're shown the door, but rather than do that gently and in consideration of their feelings - you somehow feel the need to kick them in the ass on the way out and shout (so everyone can hear) "GET OUT YOU LOSER!!".
Despide any thickly made up exterior veneer, that kind of person is ugly and rotten on the inside. Unfortunately that's what we all see right now."
1) She is not actually fabulous, she just tells herself that a lot.
2)She IS fabulous, but is way too picky (see "Marry Him" by Lori Gottlieb)
Women have been lied to. They assumed that all the attention they got in their 20s was because they were so 'fabulous'. No, it is because men that age are horny, and girls that age are much hotter then they are 10-20 years later.
Give a guy 10-15 years to watch girls dally around waiting for Mr. Perfect, and the average successful guy begins to figure the score quickly.
A funny thing happens as we age. Mens' sex drive lowers. And so does womens' sexual desirability. Isn't it ironic, dontcha think?
Sexual desirability is like an inheritance with an expiration date. Too many women spent their most attractive years playing with dating like a sort of game, rather than investing their time and attractiveness in a solid relationship.
Now, bitter and jaded, they want some 'fabulous' guy to pick up the emotional tab for their reckless years.
Not so much.
The Peter-Pan manchildren are an exact mirror to the narcissistic, ex-party girl who has a 400-point list of demands even though she is wrinkling a bit and gaining weight. It's a match made in hell, and they are both welcome to it.
If a girl wanted me to be content waking up next to her 40+ year old body without makeup, she should have been letting me wake up with it when it was 23. Male loyalty works that way. Give me your beauty when you are young, and I will give you my loyalty when you are old. A time-tested formula.
But women thought they could cheat the system by squandering their most precious asset, only to sell the leftovers 10 years later.
Posted 2/24/2012 7:52 am
A lot of the posters here have hit the nail on the head. The problem is with you. I know this sounds mean, but it looks to be the truth.
You are afraid to face the fact that men care about different things than you do, so what you are doing to attract a mate is failing.
Do you tell men that you are a great cook, and then show them by making a great meal?
Do you tell men that you are a loving person, by being a loving person toward them (in general not by spreading your legs?)
Do you tell men that you would make a good mother by showing that you know how to raise children? Hint: You are asking for a job as a mom, not a your kids friend. You can't be a kids friend and a parent.
Do you show him that you can run a house? That means being financially responsible and not having any debt.
We both know that the answers to these questions is probably no. I am sure that you have a great set of excuses for failing them. You do know that every man I know does all of these things without a problem, so you are most likly playing catch up right?
Your predicament interests me, as it is surprisingly common in childless White women of advancing age and a certain disposition.
I have openend your case as a subject for discussion on the Vanguard News Network (VNN) forum, where it has garnered some interest.
Have you considered writing an article about the Judaeo-Masonic conspiracy as it affects your plight (and vice-versa?) If you could clarify your attitude to the negroes at the same time, that would be tremendously helpful (would you / have you / how many / where, etc).
If you are able to do this, I can guarantee a sharp incrase in traffic and thus an uptick in ad revenue, perhaps leading to this blog becoming something of an 'earner' for you in the future.