My name is Sean Bianca, and I am a 43 year old divorcee.I am originally from Connecticut, and currently reside in Florida ,with my two dogs, Hobo,and Mischa. I got married at 36 years old , was married for four dreadful years, and got divorced. Simply put, "I settled", and realized that "I'd rather be single then settle!"
I've been a teaching tennis Professional since 1992, a Dogsitter, dabbled in television commercials , modeling, and have even worked as a stylist. I decided to blog about the trials and tribulations of marriage and dating to let men and, women, know, that they are not alone in their quest, to find "the one", and not settle.My blog is for other men and, women, like myself, that have "settled", or are thinking of settling. It's for, men and, women, that are approaching that crucial age of trying to figure out what's truly important, in finding, the one, and not settle for less.
It is my hope, that with this blog, men and women will see, that it's better to laugh then cry as we ride this roller coaster of life being divorced and dating at 40.
Posted 2/22/2012 10:53 am
" When reflecting on one's past relationships one tends to play the blame game and of course never blaming themselves. For it is always easier to blame someone else as opposed to blaming oneself. One tends to believe, of course it isn't I! In the past I did have a tendency to yes in fact sometimes put the blame on my partner. I admit it. For yes, many of the men I have dated have been mentally ill, alcoholics, and drug addicts. Some of them were nuts and addicts as well. What can I say? I really know how to pick them! Oh do I ever.I say it's quite the accomplishment in that I have managed to date the vast number of insane and chemically addicted people that I have. The question is was it the men that I dated? Was it their fault that I invested precious time on trying to help them through their addictions, depressions and so on? Was it their fault that I went to the great lengths of becoming a certified drug addictions counselor in my quest to have a "clean" partner. May I add that I accomplished this with a 4.0 average and 15 years later this man is still "clean". Was it their fault that I like to fix things and made a conscious decision to make these men a project? I wonder." http://ratherbesinglethansettle.blogspot.com/2012/02/take-good-look-in-mirror.html?m=1
Posted 2/22/2012 11:35 am
Just imagine what life is like for a woman like this. Let's be generous and give her a 20 year window of opportunity. From 14-34, the world is basically in the palm of her hand. Men looking for a trophy wife will throw money at her and do everything possible to try to impress her. She gets to reject people left and right; and draws a perverse sense of satisfaction from this power.
Then BAM! Without warning, it all dries up. Mega successful men no longer angle for her; desirable guys view her as too old. The only suitors left are the Roto-Rooter man and various dirtbags who are as desperate as she is.
Nature really plays a cruel trick on women who fuck around too long and don't cash in their chips on time.