I've been in a relationship almost a year now. I'll tell you how the flow of it started.
Our very first date, we already knew each other for a couple of months, we were to go to a show and then have dinner afterwards. The show was not cheap...I paid a combined ~$225 for the tickets for both with tax and everything. It was also an hour drive, which I also drove us to.
We planned this like three weeks in advance. She insisted from the getgo she wanted to pay for her ticket. Afterwards she insisted numerous more times, and still wanted to pay for hers the day of the show.
Naturally, since I was really into her, and I wanted to show her that, I told her no, it was my treat. So we saw the show, it was nice, then we went to dinner, to a pretty nice place on the water, and the bill ended up being probably around $100 to $125 by my estimation, but she grabbed the bill and paid for it even though I told her I was going to.
So I thought that was a pretty nice give and take...I was fine with her paying for the meal...in subsequent dates she paid for many meals and activities, and the first weekend trip we went on together she completely organized and paid for the bed & breakfast we went to, which was not a cheap place.
Nowadays since we've been together for quite some time, we typically pay based on whoever picks the restaurant, no hard and fast rules, but she pays plenty.
Like it or don't, it's de rigueur for the man to pony up for the first date. This isn't just some American concept, either. If you find someone decent you're really interested in, you have to put some work in and hope it pays off in kind.
WTF...how are you married for 15 years and still using a condom? Even my girlfriend is on BC, as has every woman in every long term relationship I've ever been in.
I can't imagine dealing with condoms in a 15 year marriage, STILL? There are many birth control options, surely one of them is suitable for your wife. It would drive me crazy to deal with one on a regular basis. Women usually like you coming inside them, not to say anything for the man's pleasure of it.
Fatass ARTIE LANGE famously ALMOST beat a WNBA player one on one back when he was still on Stern. I think he lost 14 to 15 or something like that. And he was wheezing and nearly dying and scoring all over this 6' WNBA player.